What does self-injury express?

Suicide is an act mixed with violence and death, and many times we see self-harm and self-harm, and there will be strong feelings. As a family member, the first thing that may erupt when witnessing injuries or scars is shock, anger or fear, because they cannot understand why such methods are used to “demonstrate”, “act”, “act”, etc. This reaction brings about Consequences include questioning or suppression. I once heard a mother tell me that when she saw her daughter’s wounds, she was so angry that she felt that the child was “too ignorant and doing things too much.” And just in the subsequent interview with her daughter, she would find that the child It is precisely because they do not get the understanding of their parents that this method is adopted in order to accuse and release the pressure. 1. Self-harm and self-harm itself is a kind of “silent cry.” Self-injured people are usually not good at expressing or resolving their emotions through language due to their growth environment and pressure. Even compared with their inner experience, language expression is both lengthy and complicated, and it is easy to cause more misunderstanding and harm. Therefore, for this group of people, the physical “pain” itself can quickly and vividly convey the “pain, loneliness, and anger” that they feel in their hearts. Once they experience this “simple and bright”, they are often unable to extricate themselves, so they will The next time a negative emotion strikes, he impulsively chooses to repeat this method to calm himself down or be released. 2. Self-injury is a “bloody punishment” imposed on the outside world. Because of the insecurities brought about by the insufficient attachment relationship in the growth process, the self-injured person themselves lack dependence and satisfaction in interpersonal relationships, so they are often extremely sensitive in interpersonal communication and easily feel hurt. In daily life, when encountering companions, relatives, friends, and parents, they show different frequency or incomprehension. Even small misunderstandings may trigger anger. These emotions are expressed in self-harm. On the one hand, transformation is the emotion of the self; on the other hand, it is also a strong demonstration and protest against those who have caused harm to themselves. Therefore, some of the cases we see in the clinic where children are angry and self-harmed due to family conflicts not only fail to attract the attention of parents, but, like the mother and daughter mentioned above, may deepen the misunderstanding and resentment between parents and children. 3. Self-harm is the “real experience” of being alive. In the statements of many self-harming people, we can hear their feelings of helplessness and emptiness in their lives—not knowing the meaning of their existence, not seeing hope, not finding goals, etc…. Such feelings are except in undesirable environments Among the young people who grow up, they may also exist in some students who are both excellent in character and academics. They may be the best-behaved and best students on campus, even they enjoy superior material conditions, but they are not growing up. What kind of traumatic experience, but years of boring and high-pressure study and life have drained their hearts, like an isolated island drifting in the ocean. Since they can’t find their own goals, they will see the world and try to commit suicide, and at least through self-injury. This painful experience makes one’s numb heart and empty body feel “really alive”. And so on, everyone who self-harms and self-harms may have their own growth experience, and there are various clear or vague reasons for hurting themselves, but in the end, no one is hurting or self-harming because of happiness! Those injuries are all helpless escapes in the negative emotions of sadness, depression, fear, anger, torture, guilt, helplessness, shame, despair, etc.